Here is a list of things girls do that men, especially beginners, think mean something but in reality mean close to nothing. When I say “mean” I’m talking about sex. The only ironclad indicator that a girl likes you is when she lets your dick in her vagina. Everything else is just pure froth. And even after you slept with a girl it doesn’t mean she is going to sleep with you again but at that point as one poet ever so eloquently put it:
Just need to know what that pussy like so one time is fine with me
Never take any of girl’s actions personally. Girls lie and flake all the time. They often do it because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. They don’t want to hurt your feeling because they want to avoid confrontation. Guys do that to.
1. She gives you her phone number, or friend/follow you on any type of social media like Facebook or Instagram. None of that means jack shit. Get over it. Basically giving a guy a phone number is a form of rejection these days. I only get phone numbers when I’m sure it’s a solid one. How do you know if it’s a solid one? It comes with Practice.
2. She makes out with you. Or any sexual contact besides intercourse. You could finger her on the dance floor all night but as soon as her friends say it’s time to go you’re immediately forgotten. Basically any sexual contact other than intercourse itself is meaningless in terms of predicting whether the girl will have sex with you.
3. She is looking at you, smiling at you, giving you every sign to approach but when you come up to her she stonewalls you. Girls are people too, as much as she may be interested in you and attracted to you if her boyfriend is around she will not get flirty. If he is not around she could be afraid her friends tell on her. There could be other reasons just don’t always expect a positive reaction in this situation.
4. She gives you all indicators of interest including but not limited to: smiling at you, staring at you, playing with her hair, touching you, laughing at your jokes, complimenting you, grabbing your ass or crotch, flirting heavily, being all over you, telling you she wants to fuck you etc. None of that means jack shit. If you encounter any of those behaviors do not assume you’re fucking that girl tonight or ever. Yes, chances of sleeping with her go up when she acts that way but it’s still very far from certain. Do not keep your hopes up.
5. She spends the whole evening/night with you. You click on so many levels. You feel like you found your soulmate. You bounce from one spot to another, just dancing and having fun (doesn’t mean you’re paying) then go get something to eat. If you weren’t able to seal the deal that night chances are you will never hear from her again! It’s normal. She may have a boyfriend or just wanted to have a good time that night that did not include sex. Whatever, who cares, move on.
6. She didn’t want anything to do with you earlier or even blew you off. An hour later you bump into her again and 10 minutes later you take her home. You can’t explain that. That’s just how it is.
7. She goes on a date with you and you think it went very well. She says she loved your company and would like to see you again. She never responds to your text/call again. Same thing for two dates, three dates. You may never hear from her again. Then two months later she texts you and you have sex with her. You never know.
8. She was hitting on you. She may have approached you. She may have insisted on a date with you. She may have insisted on a follow up date. Then she disappears. It’s normal. Don’t sweat it. It happens to everyone.
The sooner you realize that all that behavior is normal the sooner you will stop reacting to it. It used to upset me a lot when a girl would do any of those things to me. Today I just move on to the next one. I accepted it’s just how the game goes.
By the way when I say “she disappears” I mean only one thing – I sent a text (sometimes call) and had no response. That’s it, one text. There is no need for anything else. If she hasn’t responded to my last text I’m done. Have self-respect. Never send another text asking if she received the previous text message. She has and she doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. Get over it and move on to the next one.
The best way to offset that unreliability of female behavior is to pursue multiple women at any given moment. Girls do it all the time. If a girl is even remotely attractive she is talking to several guys at all times. Do likewise. Always have at least two or three girls you’re actively pursuing and another couple on a slow burner. Keep going out and approaching to replenish that pool when one of your targets inevitably flakes.