There are men who’ve been single for a long time and still would not learn about game. This could be partially attributed to pickup’s less than stellar reputation among the general populace. But primarily it is due to a belief that meeting women is something that just happens to you.
I have an acquaintance who has been single for a while. He is a good looking guy, socially adept, in good shape, owns a small business. Yet he’s been single for years. His family and friends would set him up here and there but it never worked out for one reason or another. Is he doing anything about it? Except for trying online dating, not really. And the reason is a belief that he is just going to happen to meet someone. That it’s somehow someway magically going to happen someday.
Is that belief working for him? Obviously not. So instead of dumping that belief and taking control of his situation he is still waiting for a miracle or for someone else to do the work for him.
You see there is nothing wrong with the belief per se. If you are meeting women through traditional channels like family/friends or work/school and are satisfied with your options – good for you. It works for plenty of men, not so much because conventional channels are so effective but because most men don’t know any better. But if you’re not getting results you want, then what? Are you going to play the waiting game for the rest of your life? I don’t think so. Life is too short. People wait and wait and wait and then they die. Or they wait so long they end up settling for just about anyone. That is pathetic.
“if the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?” Anton Chigurh, the main villain in No Country for Old Men, asks Carson Wells, who he is about to kill.
I was just like that too. I sat and waited for years believing that one day I’m going to meet a wonderful girl. Maybe I’ll meet her in the new gym, or when I go back to school. On my next trip to the beach I’m going to bump into this amazing girl and we’ll fall in love.
That’s how I thought it happens for everyone. People just meet. Sure people do meet but if you haven’t met anyone in a long while it’s time to admit that whatever you are doing is NOT working! It’s time for plan B. Time to try a different strategy.
I finally realized I need to stop relying on chance to meet women and do what men do – take action!
Real men take action to solve their problems. If there is a lack of women in your life you need to think of it as a PROBLEM that needs solving. It’s not just something that’s going to get resolved on it’s own. It’s not something that’s just going to go away. If you had no job would you just sit around and wait for someone to hand it to you? No. You would be actively looking for one, sending out resumes, networking etc.
Why is it acceptable to think of meeting women as something that just happens to you? Where does it come from? Movies and television of course. Stop watching that crap and start approaching women.
If you’ve been single for a while what are you waiting for? Why are you still waiting? Why do you expect different results doing the same thing? You think you’re just going to accidentally bump into a cute girl at a coffee shop one day and she will turn out to be the love of your life?
That may happen or it may never happen.
It may happen tomorrow or it may happen ten years from now.
Point is you don’t know.
You have no control over that, all you can do is passively wait.
Waiting to meet a woman is like waiting to get rich. Chances of that happening are slim to none.
You need to get out there and make it happen. Learning and practicing game is taking proactive approach to mating. You actively go out and search for your mate. That’s what real men do.