I went out with a friend of mine and his girlfriend recently. We were out at a bar and I did a few approaches. I’ve know them both for some time but it was the first time I approached in front of my buddy’s girlfriend. At the time the girlfriend didn’t seem to mind, even looked amused by it but my buddy later told me she didn’t want him hanging out with me anymore. She was afraid I would encourage him to approach which might lead to him meeting someone else.
Why do you think was she acting that way? For one she is insecure. That aside it is because a man that can approach is hard if not impossible to manipulate. A man who has options when it comes to women has the power in the relationship or at the very least he is on equal terms with his woman. He is not going to put up with her shenanigans just because she allows him to have sex with her. He has no problem getting sex elsewhere if he so desires. A man who has options can easily find another girl if the one he is with doesn’t live up to his standards.
Sooner or later you’re going to encounter peolpe who will judge you for trying to get better with women. They will criticize you openly and they will criticize you behind your back. They could be your friends, your family, random strangers. Know that it is because you’re different. You’re doing something that majority of guys have no balls for. Accept the fact that people are going to judge you because it is normal to judge those that stand out from the crowd, those that do something out of the ordinary.
I remember talking to this older guy, in his fifties, in my acting class and conversation veered towards women. I mentioned that I often meet women by approaching them in public. Conversation fizzled right after that. It fizzled as if I told him I have AIDS and I go around and purposely have unprotected sex with random strangers to spread HIV. I could tell he was judging me. We’ve never spoken again for the next few months of the class.
Be different. People are going to hate you, people are going to criticize you, people are going to despise you. Don’t worry about them, they are jealous because that’s what average normal people are. You will never achieve anything significant until you alienate a lot of people. But the upside is you will also attract like minded people, those that will support you and accept the new you. Strive to be different, strive to be not like everyone else. You can’t be great with women and remain the normal average guy. Normal average guys that do the same things other normal average guys do end up with average dismal results. Sure if you like to be average than go ahead be that. This website is not for you then. You need to accept the fact that you have to be different in order to get better results with women.
The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that. Arnold Schwarzenegger
In our society if a man were to set a goal of making more money there is no problem with that.
If a man were to set a goal of improving his physique society is not going to shame him.
But if a man has a goal of getting better with women or sleeping with multiple women society is going to shame him, look down on him. But how is that goal any different from the first two? It isn’t.
Let’s face it every guy wants to have sex with as many women as he can. It’s instinctual. It’s primal. But it’s only when he makes it a goal and takes action to accomplish it when society shames him. How dare this man dream of sleeping with multipe women? How dare he refuse to remain a mediocre guy for the rest of his life?
Everyone knows that men of high status and position, wealthy men, famous/popular males have sex with multiple women. Society turns a blind eye on that as if to endorse those men as exceptional, deserving special treatment. So if you’re not rich, powerful or famous be content with the leftovers and get yourself a girlfriend and treat her like a prize and be scared to think that she might leave you when someone better turns up.
The reason most guys never get to be with multiple women is not becuase they are so content with the woman they are with, if they have one. It’s because they can’t have other women, they have no balls to go after other women. They are like people with no money saying that money is not important. It maybe so, but how would you know? If you made a lot of money and then came to that conclusion it’s a different story. But if you never had any then you’re just fooling yourself.
If you’re in your twenties or thirties there is no reason for you to settle down. There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship either. As a matter of fact I prefer to be in a relationship. But when I’m not in one I enjoy going out and meeting women. I enjoy having freedom of choice when it comes to women instead of settling for the first one that smiles at me.
It took me awhile to stop giving shit about what people think about me, for the most part. Not entirely though. When people say they don’t care about what others think about them they are exaggerating. We all care, just to a different degree. You can’t live in a society and not care at all. This is why you see my face on the website. I’m not hiding behind my blog. That is me and that’s what you get. So strive to care less about what others think or might think about you and your goals and accept that if you’re going to do something different you will get criticized and mocked and laughed at. It’s part of the game, just don’t let that interfere with your progress.