There are as many varieties of game as there are guys on this planet. No type or style of game works equally for everyone. For instance, I’m much more predisposed to low-medium level energy game than to a high-energy super excited type of game. Doesn’t mean I can’t do a high-energy game I’m just not enjoying it and it exhausts me quickly. It’s just that I’m naturally calm and tranquil person. Once you learn the basics of game you need to start tweaking it to suit your unique personality. How do you do that?
You’ve heard the expression “play to your strengths”. This is true about pickup as well. Every man has his strengths, usually few, and a whole lot of weaknesses. You will get better and faster results by leveraging your strengths then correcting your weaknesses. You’re going to get a higher return on investment in your strengths than your shortcomings. When you’re already good at something it’s easier to get even better at it than trying to get good at something you’re god-awful at. You’re also more likely to stick with building on your strengths because you will be seeing results much quicker than if you were working on your weaknesses.
Growing up I had a friend who was obsessed with getting taller. He was about 6 feet tall but he thought it was not sufficient to become a professional basketball player. I remember he was doing all kinds of crazy things to stimulate growth. He had this contraption to hang upside down on a pull-up bar, he would do some outlandish stretching techniques, he took a bunch of prescription and nonprescription supplements. Spent years doing that. Nothing worked, he didn’t grow. Finally he gave up and decided to work on something he was really good at – his jump. He naturally had an amazing vertical jump. At six feet he could dunk effortlessly. When he focused all of his efforts on his jump he could soon jump over people. It was unreal. In the end his jumping ability was what got him noticed by the teams. That taught me a lesson – concentrate your effort on something you’re already good at, something you have proclivity for and the payoff will be higher.
Find out what your main strength(s) is and focus on:
Building your game around it.
Figuring out ways to get even better at it.
Instead of trying to turn your weaknesses into your strengths I recommend investing enough effort to bring them to an acceptable/average level. Say if you’re in terrible shape you only need to get to an acceptable/average shape. It’s like getting a passing grade in classes you have to take but have absolutely no interest in. It let’s you carry on with your general progress and allows to concentrate on and excel in classes that actually matter for your future job.
Fairly soon after I started practicing game I found out that a lot of women find me attractive. I mean physically attractive. I never considered myself particularly handsome but I kept getting that reaction. Women kept complimenting my looks and my physical shape. So I learned that being tall and good-looking is my number one strength. I went to an Ivy League school but for whatever reason that never seems to impress women as much as my abs. I would go so far as to say that my looks are responsible for 80% of my game today. So I built my game around my looks. I also worked to improve my looks even further by getting into an even better shape and improving my style etc.
I have plenty of weaknesses. For example, English is not my first language and as fluent as I am I know I’m never going to sound as good as a native speaker. I spent countless hours working on my speach and practicing stories and things to say etc. It’s not a priority any longer. I have gotten it to acceptable/average level and that is enough. For me putting on another 5 pounds of muscle will produce much higher return with women at a much lower cost than getting a little more fluent in English.
If you don’t know or not sure what your strengths are the only way to find out is by going out and approaching. Soon you will start noticing what works for you and what doesn’t. Your strength could be your exotic looks, your ethnic background, your job, your hobby, your height, your voice, your style etc. It could be a few smaller things or one big thing. I know a guy who trains horses for a living. As soon as he mentions it women just can’t get enough of it. As long as the rest of his overall package meets the threshold of acceptable/average all he needs to do is talk about his horses.
I know guys who are great talkers who can talk your ear off. That’s their main strength. It’s their main weapon. As long as they have other factors like looks, body language, income at an acceptable/average level they are going to reap higher rewards from building on the gift of gab.
If you have money use it as your strength. There is no shame in that. It would be foolish not to use that advantage. Yes that other guy is taller and better looking than you but he is broke and you can get the VIP table at a club. I used to hate on guys who had money. Then I realized they are only playing to their strengths. They weren’t born with great looks or amazing conversation skills but they are good at making money. And if I was in their place I would be doing the same exact thing – use it to my advantage.
If you’re jacked use it. Wear clothes that accentuate your body. Encourage women to touch your body, show it off. If you’re good at telling jokes and making people laugh you have a gift that very few possess. Work on it and make it you primary weapon. If you have a high status job use it as your strength.
To conclude define your strengths and exploit them in your game to the maximum.