One of the best things you can do to improve your game is take acting classes. I’ve started taking acting classes a few years ago and soon realized how beneficial they were to my game and other areas of my life as well.
As a matter of fact transformation from who you are into a man you want to be is a lot like transformation an actor undergoes for his character. The art of pickup is based on emulating the so-called “naturals” – men who are naturally good with women.
It’s basically what method actors do to get in character. They behave and think like the person they need to portray. They dress, act, talk, walk, eat and sleep like them. Total immersion. If you want to become successful with women you need to replicate behaviour of men who are successful with women. Acting is a great tool to help you accomplish that.
Aside from the fact that there are plenty of attractive women in acting classes they have other benefits for your game:
1. BUILD CONFIDENCE
The other day I approached a girl crossing the street. I was on my way somewhere so we talked for a couple of minutes, I took her number and was about to cross the street when I noticed that everyone and their grandmother was staring at me from the cars stopped at a light. They were looking at me as if I’ve just performed a miracle.
It’s always a mini performance when you’re approaching girls in public, there is always an audience. Whether you’re at a bar or in a park people are watching you. People are spectators by nature. A big part of approach anxiety is the fear of judgement. When you go up to a girl on the street in the eyes of an average person you’re doing something out of the ordinary. When you do something out of the ordinary you attract attention.
Average people are not used to drawing attention to themselves, they often go out of their way to avoid it. Acting will build confidence to express yourself in front of complete strangers.
2. DEVELOP IMPROVISATION SKILLS
Even if you’re not taking an actual improv class, which you also should, regular acting classes often have improv exercises and elements of improv in them. Approaching is basically an improv exercise. You’re always approaching someone new and you never know how the interaction is going to progress. You often have to improvise.
Here is an example form the other night. I’m by the bar getting a beer. There is a girl next to me ordering her drink. Then two of her friends come over. One of the two friends starts talking to me assuming I’m with that girl by the bar because I happen to stand next to her. Instead of revealing I’m not familiar with her friend I proceed to have a conversation about our imaginary friendship.
Of course in the end I admitted it was just a joke but by then we already knew each other pretty well so we got a good laugh out of it. Everywhere you go there will be plenty of situations that sharp improv skills can turn into opportunities.
3. IMPROVE CONVERSATION SKILLS
The impression we make on people heavily depends on our ability to converse effectively. In an acting class by practicing monologues and story telling and doing scene work with a partner you will learn how to properly use your voice, your body, your facial expressions to effectively communicate your story.
You will also practice active listening as it is crucial to listen to your scene partners to be able to react genuinely. Acting will help you become a better communicator in general. Conversation skills are one of the most essential tools of pickup. You need to be able to tell a good story and captivate your listeners while doing it. Solid conversation skills will go a long way in many other areas of your life.
4. EXPAND YOUR COMFORT ZONE
In an acting class you often get to play characters very different from who you are. They could be entirely different from you in terms of age, physical appearance, gender, habits, opinions etc. To develop a character you need to study people, study their behavioral patterns, personal traits and characteristics etc.
Experiencing what it is like to be someone else by imitating their behaviour allows you to step out of the comfort of who you are and thus expand the range of your personality. I would often use characters in conversations or as an excuse to initiate conversations. It injects fun and excitement into otherwise monotonous interactions.
For example, I used to just tell people what I really do for work, now I come up with a new occupation every time I get asked and do my best to portray it as convincingly as possible for as long as it makes sense in the context of that interaction.
5. IMPROVE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
We all know how important body language is. Actor’s body is one of his most powerful tools. Without saying a word you can tell a story just with your body movements, with your facial expressions, your gestures. Actors learn how to align their bodies with the story they are telling, with emotions they are expressing.
The more you practice it the more you become aware of your body. Something as simple as your posture can make a huge difference in the way you feel about yourself and the way others perceive you. Once you get to know your body on a more intimate level you will be able to make adjustments with specific goals in mind.
You can learn how to appear more dominant if your goal is to stand out in a public place. You can learn to create a more gentle presence if you’re with a woman somewhere private. Acting develops awareness of your body that gives you greater control over your body language.
Search for acting classes in your area and sign up for an introductory level course. Local theaters are great places to start.